You need a 12-step program. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) is free, global, and offers the only long-term solution for many love junkies. The opposite of addiction is not sobriety—it is connection. You need a sponsor who has also run the scan and recovered.
The Question: Do you cycle back to exes for “one more hit” even when you know it never works? love junkie scan
Relapse is part of addiction. If you have broken up and gotten back together with the same person more than twice, you are not trying to make it work—you are chasing a withdrawal reversal. You need a 12-step program
To get the "hit" of connection, you erase your boundaries. You stop seeing your friends, you change your political beliefs, you abandon your hobbies. The scan shows the insula (self-awareness region) going dark as you morph into whatever the partner wants. You need a sponsor who has also run the scan and recovered